Wednesday, March 19, 2008

Old Folks

Shall we place our old folks at Foster Houses (Home For The Aged)
or shall they remain with us at home? Please explain your point of view.


Arthur said...

Hi Mel. It depends on how much do the rest of the family work. And how much time can they give to the oldest member.

In my case, well, I pass much time with Gusthav selling milkshakes, my Mother also works, and she works very hard, and she earns lots of money (besides she receives money for her double widowness). And my Brother, well, nothing new about, he also works.

So we all works very hard. My aunt with her restaurant. So we have no other option to send my Grandpa to Foster House. With all the pain of our Hearts.

Big greetings and big hugs

Sweet Dreams, from the bottom of my Heart:

Noushy Syah said...

Wow...I never experienced such situation or at least seen in my family yet sent to Old Folks home....

It depends on how strong is the family ties and relationship in order to send someone that you loved to be living under the care of others or strangers ( the old folks home )...

I rather employ someone to look after my grandfather at my very own house and I will take over once I get home from least I still have him at home when I'm not working, to spend more quality time with and enhance the relationship.I would not consider taking care of the old as burden in fact I take it as an opportunity for me to do some good deeds to my own family...we siblings will take turn to take care...

If they are put in Old folks house, then surely you can't just visit them at any time but to obey to the rules set and you surely can't just pop up at middle of the night to say good night and kiss his fore-head!! way, will I send any of my old folks to the home for the aged. Although you can visit them, but there is no bonding of love as much as you can offer if they are staying at home...regardless...

Mel Avila Alarilla said...

Hi Arthur,
That's very understandable. If no one can take care of your grandpa at home, it is really much better to send him in a Foster Home. Just be sure that all of you have the time to visit him so that he will not be lonely there. Imagine yourself when you grow old and you were placed in a Foster Home and you don't receive any visitor from your immediate family. That's a case worse than death. Let us be kind to our elders for someday we will grow old too. Thanks for your visit and your honest point of view. God bless you and your family always my young friend. HAPPY EASTER TO YOU ALL.

Mel Avila Alarilla said...

Oh Noushy, you just cause a tear to fall from my eyes. You are so good my friend to really loved your grandfather and any other old relatives that you have. Your heart radiate with so much love and caring that I can't help but shed tears in my eyes. May the Lord bless you more for your compassionate heart. I could sense that your heart is so full of love and goodwill for others. You are really one of a kind. Truly you are the most beasutiful girl in the world both inside and outside. He, he, he *lol* Thanks for your wonderful point of view. God bless you always my dear beautiful friend. HAPPY EASTER TO YOU AND TO YOUR LOVED ONES TOO.

Mel Avila Alarilla said...

Hi Gusthav, where are you my young friend? HAPPY EASTER TO YOU TOO.

*~*Sameera*~* said...

I totally hate the idea of old age homes when there are offspring to look after one.And tomorrow,your kids might think about treating you the same way!

noushy syah said...

That's me...a gal from the block..

Happy Easter to you and family too.Have a gr8 weekend and may God bless you always.

Take care my friend.

Rache said...

Hi Mel,

Sorry it took me a long time to get to your blog. Thank you for visiting my blog as much as you do and thanks for sharing comments as well.

As for the question, I agree with noushy, i would feel very responsible about taking care of my parents first hand or hiring a personal nurse or caregiving working from home. This way, even if i have to work full time, i can still check on them everyday and spend even a few minutes with them each day just for hugs and kiss.

I hate the thought that they'll be lonely in some Home without their family or anyone they know in sight. Old folks can be very sensitive and they certainly need and deserve all the love we can give.

Mel Avila Alarilla said...

Hi Sameera,
Yes, Home For The Aged or Foster Homes were designed in western countries to free themselves of the care of their old folks. But Asians are more clanish and are closely knit as a family. Old folks are very sensitive and if you put them in Foster Homes, it's as if you condemned them to early death. But as they say, different strokes for different folks. Thanks for your valuable point of view my beautiful friend. How's your work going in Dubai? Thanks for your visit and God bless you and your loved ones always my beautiful friend. (You, with the most beautiful eyes and smile in the whole bloggersville)

Mel Avila Alarilla said...

Hi Noushy,
Oh, oh, I better be careful or I might find myself sinking deeper in my own quicksand. He, he, he, *lol*
I appreciate your visit here and your greetings my dear beautiful friend. I'm glad you put back your luscious lips on your profile. Next time probably we'll see your million dollar legs? He, he, he, *lol* But your BF might disapprove it. Oh my goodness, what have I got myself into? Well, let's just say you're both equally beautiful as far as I am concerned and nobody can take that away from me. Do I hear any complaint? I better go now while the going is still easier or I might stumble in my own pit. Thanks my dear beautiful friend for your visit. God bless you and your loved ones always.

Mel Avila Alarilla said...

Hi Rache,
You have a very insightful point of view. Yes, our old folks deserve our love and care as they grow old. But Asia is different from the west. I also understand that if they can't take good care of their old folks because they can't afford caregivers, they might as well put them in Foster Homes or Care Givers Home. Thanks for your visit and valuable comment. God bless you and your loved ones always.

Farah Deen said...

Mel, wow this is some subject to discuss. i have never imagined or thought about sending any elderly in the family under the care of old folk's home. However, it all depends on the relationship we have in our family. close knit family wouldn't i guess, well, again depends. some of these old folks require special attention and care which might be impossible for their family members to take care of. however, personally, i would never ever ever send my grand parents or parents to such places, leaving them under the hands of strangers. I would rather employ a nurse or a trained staff and be in the home, right in front of my own eyes.

besides, I don't think I have the heart to send people I love that way, i mean, they took care of us, no matter what happened, so, this is the time to pay them their good deeds...well..again may have their own pros and cons on this topic.

c e e d y said...

With this current situation of the way people are working away from home - it will be a better idea to put them in foster homes.
First - the parents will have friends whom they can interact with rather than waiting for the son/daughter/in law to come home and lead a solitary life

Also for the kids - they are assured that parents will get immediate attention if something goes wrong.

But if it were possible to stay together nothing like it.


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