Wednesday, June 2, 2010

Do You Favor Mixed Marriages Of Filipinos And Other Asians With Foreign Spouses?




Do you favor mixed marriages of Filipinos and other Asians with foreign spouses? Do you think such marriages will work?


Tags: Mixed Marriages, Filipinas, Asians, Foreigners, Life, Family, Caucasians, Children, Future

Posted by: Mel Avila Alarilla
Philippines
Viewpoint/Opinion

18 comments:

Davaodelights said...

It's Ok to have mixed marriages or Filipinos marrying to foreigners. I think marriage works regardless of what race or nationality your partner is. As long as there's love, respect, commitment to make the relationship work. I have many friends who are married to foreigners and they have a successful marriage. It only takes a lot of adjustment I think due to cultural differences and backgrounds but if both parties are willing to meet halfway, then it will work.

Mel Avila Alarilla said...

Hi Sam,
You have given a very insightful view on the subject matter and no one can contests those views. You are right in your views. What is important is both husband and wife honor their commitment to each other. Thanks for your visit and comments. God bless you all always.

Manang Kim said...

Hello Mel, okey naman sa akin ang mixed marriages, eh lalong gaganda ang lahi nang pinoy hehehe (joke). Kidding aside okey sa akin ang mixed marriages, kaya lang tulad din kung pinoy ang mapag-asawa nang mga kababaihan sa Pinas, meron ding hinde maganda ang ugali dito. I have known many Filipinas here na divorce na din sa kanilang mga asawa. Ang tao ay tao kahit anong race ka pa kung ugali mo masama walang patutunguhan ang relationship nang mag-asawa.
One thing that I told my friends here abroad is to pray, marami din kasing mga foreigner (any race) who don't go to church and who doesn't believe in God!! And I meet some of them here. Kawawa ang Pinay lalo na pag sa Pinas palang wala nang solid foundation about her spirituality, talagang susunod sa asawa.
So for me, I am okey with mixed marriages but it doesn't mean it will work or not.
About my snow experienced here, medyo accept na din nang katawan ko pero ang kinagulat ko pag dating ko dyan sa Pinas ubo na ako nang ubo,ewan! Sabi nang doktor dyan the last time I was there, allergy na daw ako sa DUST!!! Bumilog ang mata ko at bigla akong humagalpak nang tawa, eh ako?? Nagka-allergy nang DUST!! Sus me!! Parang nahiya ako bigla sa sinabi nang Doctor. Pero sabi niya sometimes it happen lalo na pag ang lugar ko ay malayo sa pollution dito sa MI eh totoo naman I am located sa country side, napa-agree nalang ako lol!
Thanks Mel sa space and thanks for the visit too! Happy weekend!


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Mel Avila Alarilla said...

Hi Kim,
Ikaw yung mga biniyayaan nang happy marriage pero tama ka sa sinabi mo na wala sa country yun kung hindi sa individual na ugali nang tao. Mapa foreigner o kapwa Pinoy ang mapangasawa natin ay walang kasiguruhan nang tunay na ligaya. We have to make our marriage work. Siguro nga nasanay ka na sa very clean environment nang iyong lugar diyan kaya nang bumalik ka sa Pinas ay naging allergic ka na sa dust. Hanga ako sa iyo sa pagmamahal na ipinapakita mo sa mga pamangkin mo as though they are your own children. God will bless you more for that. I am also happy that you have a great and healthy spiritual life. Kailangan natin yun more than material things. Thanks for your visit and meaningful comments. I really appreciate that. God bless you all always.

Arvin U. de la Peña said...

ang pagmamahal ay walang pinipili..kahit saan pang lupalop galing ang isang tao basta ba mahal ay wala iyon problema basta ba magmahalan sa isat isa..favor po ako..sabi nga "kung saan ka masaya, doon ka",hehe..

Mel Avila Alarilla said...

Hi Arvin,
Okay ang pilosopia mo sa buhay. Very liberal ka. Tama naman ang pananaw mo at sinasangayunan ko. Salamat sa dalaw at komento. God bless you always.

Dhemz said...

I completely agree with the first commenter kuyaMel....regardless of what race a couple came from basta nagkakaintindihan at nagmamahalan...that's what it all matters....

Marriage is not perfect, but neither is it a one way street. It is the union of two people who come from different family, backgrounds, different class and culture, race and religion and from time to time there would be conflicts of interests, views
and ideas.

some mix marriages works and some don't....ganyan din naman sa atin sa pinas...and in general too kahit d mix yung marriage.

thanks for this wonderful post kuyaMel....:)

Mel Avila Alarilla said...

Hi Dhemz,
How right you are. It takes the wife and the husband to make their marriage work irregardless of whether its a mixed marriage or a marriage between two of the same nationality. Mas mahirap lang sigurong mag adjust ang mixed marriages dahil sa magkaibang kultura at kustombre. Thanks for your visit and comments. God bless you all always.

Bambie ★ said...

same here Sir Mel, I absolutely agree with the first commenter's comment. I never planned nor thought that Id be married to a foreigner, it just happened na i fell inlove with him kasi sa kanya ko nakita mga qualities na hinahanap ko pala.. Ive been to many relationships pero sa hubby ko lang na-prove that love moves in mysterious way hehe.. The most important thing when you're married to a foreigner is respect --respect sa culture, beliefs, upbringing, etc--.. My hubby doesn't believe in God pero he never discourage me in my beliefs. He lets me talk about my religion and I listen to his beliefs at the same time. What I love about him most especially is he love our country kahit na ang pangit ng image natin dito, government lang daw ang problema sa atin..

My answer to your question is YES =) walang impossible sa taong nagmamahalan =) happy weekend po =)

Mel Avila Alarilla said...

Hi Bambie,
Alam mo palagi akong nata touch sa mga comments mo. Lagi kasing nanggagaling sa puso at very sincere. I respect naman yung decisions nang mga kababayan nating piniling makasal sa foreigners. Hindi naman natin matuturuan ang ating puso kung sino ang mamahalin natin. Ang importante ay nagkakasundo kayo at nagrerespetuhan. Isang bagay lang ang nagbigay sa akin nang agam agam at yun ay yung tinuran mong hindi naniniwala sa Diyos ang asawa mo. Baka madala si Anzu sa paniniwala niya. I suggest na ipag pray mo ang mister mo na matutong maniwala sa Diyos. Salamat sa dalaw at komento. God bless you all always.

Dhemz said...

a quick dalaw here KuyaMel....hope all is well...nangungumusta lang po....enjoy your weekend!

btw, ito po pala yung new blog ko....ehehehe!

Mel Avila Alarilla said...

Hi Dhemz,
Thank you again and again for your visits and comments. I always appreciate your visits and comments. Yes, I will visit and support your new blog. God bless you all always.

charmie said...

Hello Kuya Mel, thanks for dropping by my blog .

I totally agree with the commenter, wala sa lahi , nasa respeto at pagmamahal.

And I think it depends of a person if she can live with a partner with different culture and tradition. Nasa pagdadala na din kasi yon kung kaya ba.

I am a single person, I always tried dating foreigners, but never work, perhaps its not my line of longing.:)

Mel Avila Alarilla said...

Hi Charmie,
I respect your line of reasoning regarding the subject matter at hand. Lahat naman nang pagsasama ay dependent sa attitudes nang couple if they can adjust to one another because of love. I know that you will also find your man of dreams later on. Just trust in the Lord and He will give you an ideal partner. Thanks for your visit and comments. God bless you always.

chubskulit said...

Sabi nga Kuya "It takes two to tango" and it's the same thing with marriage. Both partner should respect each other and as long as love is present, any marriage will work, whether it's the same race or not.

Sensya na po, kulelat ako lagi sa mga topics huhuhu.. To kasing mga kabarangay ko, halos araw araw eh nasa lakwatsa kami..

Thanks a lot for always visiting and for your wonderful comments. Ingat po lagi!

Mel Avila Alarilla said...

Hi Rose,
You are right there like all the rest. Yes it takes two to tango. Irregardless of race or color, the success of marriage is dependent on the commitment of both parties to make their marriage work. Thanks for your visit and comments. God bless you all always.

Joops said...

Having a mixed marriage is a bliss for me.

Mel Avila Alarilla said...

Hi John,
I believe that. You have found a gem of a wife in Rose. She is not only an ideal wife, she is also a great mother for your kids. Thanks for your visit and comments. God bless you all always.

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