Wednesday, April 9, 2008

Virginity, Anyone?


Do you consider virginity as an asset for a girl before she marries? Or do you think it does not matter whether a girl is virgin or not before she marries as long as the boy loves the girl? Please explain your point of view.

19 comments:

Arthur said...

Hi Mel, well, I'd not care if my girl (if I had) is virgin or not. But since in my family we all are conservative, it's not well seen by my Mother if I marry a non-vrigin.

And thinking about this, I think it would be a sin if a girl loses her virginity before the marriage, but in that, I don't have anything to do, so, I'd have no problem about marrying a non-virgin.

Big greetings and big hugs

Sweet Dreams, from the bottom of my Heart:
Arthur

Gusthav said...

Hi Mel, I'd marry a non-vrigin, I think it's not her fault if she lost her virginity, whether if she wanted or not.

Love is the most important thing, and her virginity is not all in a relationship.

So that's it, I'd not care if I marry a virgin or non-virgin.

By the way, I already posted the meme, but it's not in my poll, it's my corner.

Greetings and hugs

Nice Day, with my whole soul:
Gusthav

Mel Avila Alarilla said...

Hi Arthur,
Thanks for your conservative point of view. Virginity is no longer an issue nowadays. So long as she is faithful to you when you become engaged. Thanks for doing the meme. You are indeed a true friend. God bless you and your family always.

Mel Avila Alarilla said...

Hi Gusthav,
That's a very liberal point of view. Most males are not virgins also when they marry. Why should we seek something that we ourselves are not capable of being? Thanks too my young friend for your support in doing the meme. It does not matter which blog you put it in as long as you post it.
Now I know that you and Arthur are indeed my true friends. Thanks again and God bless you and your family always my young friend.

SambY said...

i would care if she loves me or not rather than if she is a virgin or not... i will be doing your meme soon..thankx for tagging me..:-)

Noushy Syah said...

I would save it for the first nite! It would be so exciting and something gr8 that we both are waiting for...

I personally would like my husband to have it on the wedding nite rather than before,not only in my religion it is a sin to have sex before marriage(pardon me, I don't care if people think I'm conservative or not)but it is something I want to treasure until the wedding nite...and honestly to me it is a special asset for a gal before she marries.

jennifer said...

I want my girls to be virgins until they marry. I encourage abstenance now and they are not even of an age to date yet. In these times, I think that it is a rare quality in a bride.

Brave question to ask, Mel! Your blog is awesome.

Jen

Mel Avila Alarilla said...

Hi Samby,
I know that will be your point of view. You showed yourself to be very liberal in your views in life. I hope you will do the tag very soon and please do not forget the tag board. I need it very badly to increase traffic in my blogs. Thanks so much. God bless.

Mel Avila Alarilla said...

Hi Noushy,
Definitely it is an asset. How fortunate will be your husband if he finds out that you are pure and pristine. But, that does not take away anything from those who lost their virginity because of love. We all commit mistakes somewhere in our lives. One should not be punished and censured just because she gave everything to her beloved and later on fell out of love. Thanks for your wonderful point of view my dear beautiful friend. Ehem, is the wedding forthcoming already? Just joking! God bless.

Mel Avila Alarilla said...

Hi Jennifer,
I don't think you can decide for your daughters especially in America where the attitude of everybody is towards extreme liberalism. Sometimes peer pressure can exert a tremendous psychological strain on our youth. We can only admonish them and pray to God that they will not give in to temptations. I hope your wishes for your daughters will come true. But if not, never censure any of them, for they have their own lives to live. We can only guide and admonish them to follow God's ways. BTW, I like your new look. You look so young and smart and beautiful. Your hubby must be very proud of you. Thanks for your visit and strong point of view. God bless you and your family always my friend.

Malaysian Fabric Heritage said...

Virginity as an asset is just a state of mind. You are your own judge. Even Jesus forgives a prostitute.

I am sorry for guys who cannot accepts a girl who has had a past experience. When you love somebody, it is the person, not a piece of skin. Just a state of mind.

Mel Avila Alarilla said...

Hi Malaysian Fabric Heritage,
Yes, I respect your point of view. Virginity should never be an issue in determining whether a guy will marry a girl or not. Anyway, I doubt whether there is a virgin groom when he marries. Why should he expect a different criteria for marrying a girl? So long as a guy loves a girl, that is sufficient enough to marry her. Her being still a virgin at the time of their marriage is just a pleasant bonus.
Thanks for your point of view and for your visit too. God bless.

Robin said...

I think we are suppose to wait until we are married. But, a lot of people don't. I think it doesn't matter, as long as they both love each other when they get married. I hope God forgives us for this sin. :-) Take care, Robin

Noushy Syah said...
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Noushy Syah said...

Mel..hehhehe, although I rather keep it till the first nite,but to those who happens to have lost their virginity for whatever reasons,the guy that will marry them shouldn't be judgemental,after all what counts is the love that both have..

..problem arises re-virginity after the wedding.When the fading phase in the relationship started where the issue of not been virgin when they wed been dig out and become a big issue!!

Mel Avila Alarilla said...

Hi Robin,
It depends on one's point of view. To people who are really in love, they don't consider it sin. But anyway, virginity should never be an issue in marrying someone. Love and caring should be the important ones. Thanks for your point of view. God bless.

Mel Avila Alarilla said...

Hi Noushy,
Men who will make that an issue are hypocrites. Whatever happens to the woman when they were not yet related to each other is a non issue. Is he himself a virgin when they got married? Thanks for your visit again and your point of view. God bless you and your loved ones my dear beautiful friend.

Ritchiela said...

These days,virginity doesn't matter anymore.But to me,it does.That's to be fair.

Got your link from Anne(Bisdak Footprints).See yah...take care!

Princess Cinderella said...

I really wanted to give myself to the man whom I'm going to marry...I want to offer to him myself that he's the only man in my life and to grow old with him.

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