Friday, February 5, 2010

Do You Believe In Arranged Marriages By Parents?






Do you believe in arranged marriages by parents? Do you think such marriage will succeed and last even if there was no love at the onset of the marriage?



Tags: Marriage, Arranged Marriage, Traditions, Culture, East, China, India, Asia, Parents, Clan, Obedience, Submission, Successful Marriage, Cultural Heritage, Economic Consideration, Dowry, Merging of Clans, Merger of Families, Clout, Power, Influence, Society, Fate, Destiny

Posted by: Mel Avila Alarilla
Philippines
Viewpoint/Opinion

14 comments:

My Family Daily Adventure said...

ah wow... I've heard but I won't agree...
Thanks for always visiting Mel, blessings!

Arvin U. de la Peña said...

sa ngayon na panahon ay ewan ko kung mayroon pang ganun na ang dalawang mga magulang ay nagkakasundo na magpakasal ang kanilang mga anak..

chubskulit said...

Naku kuya patayin mo yung i mean disable mo yung anonymous comments mo para walang kang commenter na nagaasdvertise for free sa site mo hehehe.

Opps balik sa topi, I don't like arrange marriages I think unfair yan sa mga bata.

By the way nasolve na pala yung problema ko sa IZEA, check it out the problem solved para naman di ka na mareject nga walastik doon hehehe.

Mel Avila Alarilla said...

Hi My Family Daily Adventure,
Yes, we can state our disagreement to this kind of wedding arrangement. Thanks for stating your point of view and for your visit. God bless you always.

Mel Avila Alarilla said...

Hi Arvin,
Maaaring sa atin ay wala na halos nang ganoon pero sa rural China at India at ilan pang Asian countries ay laganap pa rin ang ganitong tradisyon. Kung minsan ay tama rin naman sila dahil karamihan sa mga arranged marriages ay nagtatagal at hindi humahantong sa paghihiwalay dahil sa pagiwas nang magasawang ma offend ang kani kanilang mga pamilya. Salamat sa dalaw. Pagpalain ka nang Diyos palagi.

Mel Avila Alarilla said...

Hi Rsose,
Mapapatay ko lang yung mga spam comments kung ireregulate ko yung comments section ko. Ayaw kong mahirapan ang mga commenters ko kaya dini delete ko na lang yung mga anonymous at spam comments. Yes, hindi ka rin sangayon sa ganitong marriage arrangements. Nabasa ko na yung post mo tungkol sa article rejection. Salamat sa tips. Thanks for your visit and comments. God bless you all always.

Mama Ko said...

Likw what bakla said Its unfair for the kids ant unfair sa mga kinakasal na napipilitan. I know some country this kind of thing still existed in their culture.

Mel Avila Alarilla said...

Hi Shy,
Natatawa pa rin ako sa tawagan nyong bakla ni Rose, lol. Buti hindi kayo nagkakapikunan, lol. Wala na siguro yung ganun sa atin pero sa ibang bansa katulad sa China at India ay laganap pa rin . Salamat sa dalaw at komento. God bless you all always.

Manang Kim said...

Hi Mel,

I am so thankful, this winter we don't have that much of snow compare to other state. Usually kami ang magkaroon nang 6 to 8 inches which since I came here parang common na pag winter dito. Ngayon flurries lang ang marami pero the same temp pa rin ang lamig pero ok nalang yun kasi hirap mag drive pag snow lalo na pag aaraw di mo alam ang itim na road eh ice na pala. Kaya marami ang disgrasya pag-ganun.
About, arranged marriage in my family it doesn't exist. Pero some other families kahit na pinoy pa sila lalo na yung mga muslim at chinese they do still practice. Eh kultura na nila yun.
I have known many, in fact may friend ako dito sa MI, won't elaborate na masyado because I promised her not to divulge baka ma trace siya ^_^. He/she being arranged nang parents eh ayaw niya so exit to the max siya ^_^.
Listening to her/his story makes me feel sad. Why can't they just let their kids choose who they wanted to love and be with. And he/she says ang hirap talaga and I could feel it and I do believe her/him.

Thanks for the visit Mel I do appreciate it much!

Mel Avila Alarilla said...

Hi Kim,
Very erratic nga ang weather patterns ngayon. Yung mga dati na sobrang lamig eh nakakaranas nang taginit at yun namang dry areas eh sobrang nagyeyelo ngayon. Tama ka na hindi na uso ang arranged marriage sa Pinas. Nakakalungkot naman ang nangyari sa kaibigan mo na nag fail ang marriage dahil arranged ito. Pasensiya ka na kung hindi ako masyadong nakakadalaw sa iyo. Pito kasi ang blogs ko at limitado lang ang oras ko sa computer dahil sa mga anak ko, lol. Salamat sa dalaw kaibigan at sa komento. God bless you always.

Bambie dear ★ said...

Imoderate mo kaya mga comments kuya..

Hmm medyo malalin din na topic ito kung tutuusin.. Yung iba kasi, nasa culture na nila ito. Kaya kahit di nila mahal yung pina-arranged sa kanila, dahil importante ang tradition, natututunan nila mahalin and they work things out. Syempre dapat willing yung both parties diba.

But I believe, every marriage should be made because of love. Para love child ang magiging anak diba..

Mel Avila Alarilla said...

Hi Bambie dear,
Me mga bansa talaga katulad nang China at India na uso pa rin ang arranged marriages and in most instances eh nagwo workout naman . At marami rin naman ang nagpakasal sa mga mahal nila sa buhay na kapag nalaunan na ay naghihiwalay din. Marami sa naghihiwalay ay kinasal nang bata pa sila at wala pa sa tamang idad nang karanasan sa buhay. Salamat sa dalaw at comments. God bless you all always.

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